{"id":8,"date":"2004-12-13T23:41:14","date_gmt":"2004-12-14T03:41:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.phildev.net\/phil\/newblog\/?p=8"},"modified":"2004-12-13T23:41:14","modified_gmt":"2004-12-14T03:41:14","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.phildev.net\/phil\/blog\/?p=8","title":{"rendered":"I&#8217;m back"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I find that people are ever more sticking large telephone poles up their asses. If I say &#8220;hey that&#8217;s a dumb idea&#8221; it doesn&#8217;t mean &#8220;hey you&#8217;re a dumbfuck&#8221; it means &#8220;hey that&#8217;s a dumb idea.&#8221; Why are people so fucking high and mighty that they can&#8217;t accept the fact that <b>they<\/b> might have a dumb fucking idea? I have dumb fucking ideas all the time and only about half the time do people have the balls to go &#8220;hey that&#8217;s a dumb fucking idea&#8221;&#8230; and that&#8217;s retarded. Grow up people. Say it however you want, but don&#8217;t be afraid to be honest.<\/p>\n<p>I did a lot of thinking recently. Over the last several years, but in the last 6 months in particular, I&#8217;ve had lots of people warn me about how harsh I come off, and how some people aren&#8217;t used to that, etc. And that made me re-think how I approached certain people, and I learned that some situations require more tact. And that&#8217;s still true.<\/p>\n<p>But people still felt that even outside of those situations I came off too harsh. They warned and warned, coaxed and coaxed. Consequently, little by little, I&#8217;ve been sugar coating more, refraining from commenting more, watering down more, and keeping more to myself. But contrary to what one might expect I&#8217;ve had more people offended by me, more people who can&#8217;t handle me, and more people who just fucking whine about me.<\/p>\n<p>So that&#8217;s it. I&#8217;m done. I hereby return to being myself. 100% honest. From now on&#8230;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>If you ask me if I like your sweater and the answer is &#8220;not really&#8221; you&#8217;re going to get &#8220;not really&#8221; (okay, you&#8217;ll probably get an &#8220;eh, it&#8217;s not really my thing, sorry&#8221;)<\/li>\n<li>If you tell me you just bought a [Care Bear wallet, Hello Kitty purse, Barbie dress, etc.], I&#8217;m going to tell you that you&#8217;re not 12 any more and you should move on.<\/li>\n<li>If you say &#8220;nuh uh sista&#8221; or &#8220;yeahuh gurlfren&#8221; and you&#8217;re not in a gang or uneducated enough to not know the English language I&#8217;m going to tell you to speak fucking English. This is particularly evil in people who are professors, like academia, have a masters in anything, or otherwise might be considered &#8220;academics.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>If you give me a look when I interrupt you instead of just saying &#8220;hey, I was talking&#8221; I&#8217;m going to tell you to grow a pair.<\/li>\n<li>If you decide you want to sleep with some bimbo without a condom because she says she&#8217;s a virgin and you&#8217;ve only known her for 3 weeks, I&#8217;m going to tell you you&#8217;re the biggest dumb piece of shit I&#8217;ve ever met.<\/li>\n<li>If you don&#8217;t know that women get periods every month (okay, yeah, yeah, there&#8217;s exceptions, the cycle is roughly 28 days, etc&#8230; in <i>general<\/i>, asshole), I&#8217;m going to tell you that you&#8217;re the second dumbest piece of shit I&#8217;ve ever met.<\/li>\n<li>If you change the subject, or ignore me, or otherwise evade answering a question you were directly asked but don&#8217;t feel like answering I&#8217;m going to call you on it and tell you how rude you are being.<\/li>\n<li>If you want to stick your finger in an electrical socket, I&#8217;m going to tell you your being a fucking moron.<\/li>\n<li>If you don&#8217;t like what I&#8217;m doing and don&#8217;t tell me for 3 months, I&#8217;m going to tell you that you deserve it.<\/li>\n<li>If I suspect you&#8217;re trying to hint at it, I&#8217;m going to do it more until you fucking say something.<\/li>\n<li>If you can&#8217;t handle hearing opinions, you&#8217;re going to get more of them because ya know what? Opinions are like assholes &#8211; we all got &#8217;em and they&#8217;re all different. Diversity is good.<\/li>\n<li>If I think you&#8217;re being a tree-hugging hippie communist, I&#8217;m going to tell you that you&#8217;re being a tree-hugging hippie communist.<\/li>\n<li>If you think this post means I&#8217;m in a bad mood I&#8217;m going to tell you that you&#8217;re wrong, you clearly don&#8217;t know anything about me, and that you&#8217;ve just put me in a bad mood.<\/li>\n<li>And if you call me rude, obnoxious, or annoying, I&#8217;m going to say &#8220;yeah, and?&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Ya know why? Because that&#8217;s who I am, that&#8217;s my honest reaction, that&#8217;s the truth, and that meant people got used to me or left, but I didn&#8217;t have to worry about keeping my reactions inside, sugar coating for whiny people, or people whining. And I especially don&#8217;t have to worry about pissing off someone which might piss of someone else which might hurt someone else&#8230;. gah. Give me a fucking break &#8211; what are we, children?<\/p>\n<p>The best part is that just knowing that I&#8217;m being more honest has put me in a stupidly happy mood. I&#8217;ve been smiling all day. I feel sorry for those who haven&#8217;t known the full me &#8212; some growing pains may ensue. But I think at the end of the day I&#8217;m worth knowing even if I&#8217;m strong-willed, over opinionated, loud, and intimidating. And if you don&#8217;t think so, that&#8217;s okay, because otherwise you don&#8217;t really like me anyway, you like someone I&#8217;m pretending to be. And I wouldn&#8217;t respect anyone else pretending, so I&#8217;m done doing it myself. I&#8217;m just happy I realized what I was doing before it was too late.<\/p>\n<p>A huge thanks to my friends and my girlfriend who have always supported me doing whatever it was I felt I had to do in life. I love you all.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I find that people are ever more sticking large telephone poles up their asses. 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